For Men  
This page is full of articles and links for men to use for encouragement, instruction, inspiration and Bible study.

& Fathers

 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness:
but a faithful man who can find?
Proverbs  20.6
helping you to become a better father


    Scroll down for  a neat account of the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier


page updated march 7, 2012

Recently Posted ARTICLES & Links

Remember the Credenda Agenda?
Some of our favourite articles were written by Douglas Wilson
Here's the Link:

The Marks of Manhood
Dr. Albert Mohler

How to Kill Sin - part 1
John Piper
How to Kill Sin - part 2
John Piper
How to Kill Sin - part 3

John Piper

Deterring Immorality by Counting its Cost
the exorbitant price of sexual sin
Randy Alcorn

Character is what you are in the dark. - D.L. Moody

Defend the Bible?  I would as soon defend a lion!  Unchain it and it will defend itself.
– C. H. Spurgeon

One of the greatest gifts
you can give your children
will cost you nothing and everything.
It is
to give them
a godly example
to follow.

Just a Man
a wife's response to prngrphy
Debbie Yuck

Cash or Character,
Which means more to you?
Steve Braun

outside link  Family Man Ministries
newsletter: Family Man Weekly...
You Da Dad!

The Feminization of the Family
William Einwechter

To Complete the Vow
a meditation for Husbands and Wives 
Michael Spencer

Biblical Patriarchy and the Doctrine of Federal Representation
Brian M. Abshire

Essentials for a new Church
Phil Lancaster

Preserving the Harvest - Part 4
 (Good articles: Parts 1, 2, and 3
can be found there as well)
Phil Lancaster




Who has a troop of romping youth
  About his parlor floor,
Who nightly hears a round of cheers,
  When he is at the door,
Who is attacked on every side
  By eager little hands
That reach to tug his grizzled mug,
  The wealth of earth commands.

Who knows the joys of girls and boys,
  His lads and lassies, too,
Who's pounced upon and bounced upon
  When his day's work is through,
Whose trousers know the gentle tug
  Of some glad little tot,
The baby of his crew of love,
  Is wealthier than a lot.

Oh, be he poor and sore distressed
  And weary with the fight,
If with a whoop his healthy troop
  Run, welcoming at night,
And kisses greet him at the end
  Of all his toiling grim,
With what is best in life he's blest
  And rich men envy him.

-Edgar Guest



Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.  There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1Corinthians 10.12-13

You can take the first step today. 
Freedom from the Lie

the "Treat" on the Screen IS a trap
and it IS a
LIE  ...and you have a choice.
Choose Truth.
Choose Life.
Choose Jesus.

---a concerned wife, sister, mother, friend

Deterring Immorality by Counting its Cost
the exorbitant price of sexual sin
Randy Alcorn


FAMILY... articles at Credenda Agenda
click here

great tragedy.. 
for a faithful
man to leave a legacy of faithless and disobedient sons.
Another great tragedy : for a husband to look around,
to fill his pockets with charcoal and disregard the fact
that he has
diamonds his own backyard.  --ps

   Older  Articles & Links for Men

Ten Things I Learned From My Dad   -  Mart DeHaan

Jumping Ship --Michael Pearl     Jumping Ship Part 2 - Stagnant and Unpromising --Michael Pearl

A man &  his wife

What do you believe?

Thought Life

What Is God's Design And Calling For You As A Husband?  
by Steve Carr

Husbandry: Discipline of Faithfulness
by Douglas Wilson

Reconciling with a Hardened Wife
by Reb Bradley  

Many great articles by
Reb Bradley to spur you on.

Duties of Husbands and Wives:  
Richard Steel       
(paraphrased  by  D. Scott Meadows)

The Pornography Net
Golden Secrets
From Survivors of 50+ Years of Marriage

Barbara Curtis

The Gospel Message of Separation
Keith M. Bailey


Josh Harris

A Godly Man Loves the Word 
Vision Forum

Here's a very thought provoking article; another '
what and why' you believe article from Phil Johnson's site 

Gilbert Keith Chesterton (1909)

A Christian and His Dress
Daniel E. Mielke

It's said that 95% of all men deal
with lust to one degree or another
and the other 5% are lying. 

Every Man's Battle
Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
for married men; there is also a companion work/study book and

Every Young Man's Battle
Stephen Arterburn
A must-read for young men15 years
(or so) and older.

Freedom from the trap

Eye Promise: Guarding Your
Heart By Guarding Your Eyes

P-rnography-Road to Hell 
Michael Pearl
Excruciatingly frank and open letter concerning the strangulating addiction of p-rnography. ---CAUTION---

Addressing Online sexual temptation


Home Decisions

A Man & His Children

Finances &  Time

Head Coverings and Charity 
---by Douglas Wilson

The Meaning of Femininity
by Douglas Jones
- Credenda Agenda

What about courtship... 
What is your roll in your sons'
& daughters' courtship?

Preparing Your Sons and Daughters
to Respond to Aggressive Flirting
Reb Bradley

Turning Point:  
by Philip Lancaster


How to Be a Refuge for Your Children Thoughts on Proverbs 14:26  
---Dr. John Piper 

We encourage you to purchase
Reb Bradley's
Child Training Tips 

Fathers... be a gift to your children
Print this out & carry it with you!

40 Ways Fathers Can Make a Difference
by Mike Farris

Dad's Special Brownies 
Help for Dad's who want to make a point about  movies that are  supposedly "not *that* bad, Dad!"

Christian Financial Ministries

Ron Blue LLC
A little more about Ron...

It hurts when God has to PRY things out of our hand!
– Corrie Ten Boom

Larry Burkett
Crown Financial Ministries
Dave Ramsey says:
Beat debt and build wealth

Franklin Covey
paper planners & refills
Plus electronic planners & software

Learning To Wait
Elisabeth Elliot

"Keep your hands off. Keep your clothes on. And stay out of bed.
Can you understand that?"
--elisabeth elliot

Wild At Heart - John Eldredge
a critique from Contend For the Faith

Many sites

from the website:

"The Judicial Forum was begun by the late Supreme Court Justice William C. Goodloe in 1988. It was his desire to establish a system of judicial accountability to keep the voters informed of the activities of those who work within the judicial and legal system in Washington State."


NEW    An e-Book: In The Name of Purpose Sacrificing Truth on the Alter of Unity

[ Practical application - outside links - not "Christian" per se ]  Didn't your Papa ever teach you anything??  Seriously, now, you don't have to be paralyzed by what you don't know.  Here are some great sites to help answer practical questions you might have.  You probably know guys who seem to know everything about everything (and they like to let everyone know what they think) but maybe they  aren't around when you have a question that needs to be answered: now, not ASAP.  So... where do you turn?  Well, here's a start:

A site that will help you fix, or direct you to fixing just about anything: Handyman USA and you can sign up
for their newsletter, too.

Mister Fix It
'So you cut it twice and it's still too short??
You need Mr Fix-it."

Well, if your daddy didn't teach you, and you you didn't pick up some practical skills along the way and now you're in your own home... what do you do?  Here's a place to look: How to Operate Your Home

On the House
with James and Morris Carey
If you've got a question, you can count
on them having an answer for you.


porn blurs your standards.

My name is Pride. I am a cheater.

I cheat you of your God-given destiny... because you demand your own way.
I cheat you of contentment... because you "deserve better than this."
I cheat you of knowledge... because you already know it all.
I cheat you of healing... because you're too full of me to forgive.
I cheat you of holiness... because you refuse to admit when you're wrong.
I cheat you of vision... because you'd rather look in the mirror than out a window.
I cheat you of genuine friendship... because nobody's going to know the real you.
I cheat you of love...because real romance demands sacrifice.
I cheat you of greatness in heaven... because you refuse to wash another's feet on earth.
I cheat you of God's glory... because I convince you to seek your own.
My name is Pride. I am a cheater.
You like me because you think I'm always looking out for you. Untrue.
God has so much for you, I admit.
But don't worry...
If you stick with me, you'll never know.

-from Beth Moore's Praying God's Word


Satan called a worldwide convention.

In his opening address to his evil angels, he said, "We can't keep the Christians from assembling with the church.  We cannot keep them from reading their Bibles and knowing the truth.  We cannot even keep them from forming an intimate, abiding relationship experience in Christ. Once they gain that connection with Jesus, our power over them is broken.

So let them go to their churches; let them have their conservative lifestyles, but steal their time, so they can't gain that relationship with Jesus Christ. This is what I want you to do, angels.  Distract them from gaining hold of their Savior and maintaining that vital connection throughout their day!"  "How shall we do this?" shouted his angels. "Keep them busy in the nonessentials of life and invent innumerable schemes! To occupy their minds," he answered.  "Tempt them to spend, spend, spend, and borrow, borrow, borrow. Persuade the wives to go to work for long hours and the husbands to work 6-7 days each week, 10-12 hours a day, so they can afford their empty lifestyles.

Keep them from spending time with their children. As their family fragments, soon, their home will offer no escape from the pressures of work!"  Over-stimulate their minds so that they cannot hear that still, small voice.  Entice them to play the radio or cassette player whenever they drive. To keep the TV, VCR, CDs and their PCs going constantly in their home and see to it that every store and restaurant in the world plays non-biblical music constantly. This will jam their minds and break that union with Christ."  "Fill the coffee tables with magazines and newspapers. Pound their minds with the news 24 hours a day. Invade their driving moments with billboards.  Flood their mailboxes with junk mail, mail order catalogs, sweepstakes, and every kind of newsletter and promotional offering free products, services, and false hopes. Keep skinny, beautiful models on the magazines so their husbands will believe that external beauty is what's important, and they'll become dissatisfied with their wives. That will fragment those families quickly!"  "Even in their recreation, let them be excessive. Have them return from their recreation exhausted, disquieted and unprepared for the coming week.  Don't let them go out in nature to reflect on God's wonders. Send them to amusement parks, sporting events, concerts and movies instead."

Keep them busy, busy, busy!

And when they meet for spiritual fellowship, involve them in gossip and small talk so that they leave with troubled consciences and unsettled emotions. Go ahead, let them be involved in soul winning; but crowd their lives with so many good causes they have no time to seek power from Jesus.  Soon they will be working in their own strength, sacrificing their health and family for the good of the cause.  It will work!  It was quite a convention. The evil angels went eagerly to their assignments causing Christians everywhere to get more busy and more rushed, going here and there.

I guess the question is: Has the devil been successful at his scheme?  You be the judge! Does "busy" mean:


Are we too BUSY?!

A most powerful sermon by Douglas Wilson:  you can order the tape from his church,
208-882-2034 and Fax:  208-882-1568 and because of its importance, you are permitted to copy and
distribute the tape.  
 Please take the time to listen and ponder his message...
I believe you will benefit greatly from this sermon based on the text of Luke 13.3-4 concerning the events of late.

Valuable sites for Husbands & Fathers 

Family Man Ministries
newsletter: Family Man Weekly...
You Da Dad!

Mantle Ministries Passing on the Mantle
of Christian Heritage

Desiring God  (Piper)

Mount Zion

Peace Makers


"I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God"    Galatians 2.20

Free In Christ

The truest measure of a man
is the outward evidence and demonstration
of his inward commitment and obedience
to the Lord Jesus Christ.

Looking for a Christian resource?


you made a vow

keep it pure.

Just for Young Men
a section with articles and links for the instruction in wisdom for younger men

pornography is CHEATING ~ don't be a cheater.


A mother writes her thoughts on godly young men... sons.
What a Godly Man Should Look Like
Kathy Gruben

"I would use these words to describe this wonderful man of virtue....

Noble, chivalrous, courageous, fun, true, wise, loyal, passionate, protector, gentle, humble, strong, self-sacrificial, adventurous, patient, loving, kind, serving, intelligent, polite, family centered, lover of truth, steeped in the Word of God, prayerful and hospitable.

These are not the kind of guys that you always notice first in a crowd. But they are the ones that you admire most once you do notice them. They are the ones who go to the person sitting on the side of the church looking left out, and shake hands with a smile. They are the ones that you will find at home instead of in youth group. You will see them sitting with their folks rather than passing notes in the back of church with their friends. You will find them helping in the kitchen or taking out the trash, walking the ladies to their cars and carrying diaper bags even if they don't belong to them.

You'll find them with other guys, in deep discussions about theology, worldview philosophies, politics, and books rather than just talking about the latest football games, computer games and girls. Yet, they can converse on these topics too when needed :- ) . These are the guys who walk on the outside of the sidewalk to protect the lady whom they might be with, and are always watching for ways to take care of her as a sister. When looking for a mate, they want the one who is at home (or wants to be) and "hangs out" with her mom and siblings more than her buddies.

They love a good time, but it usually entails sword fighting, ultimate Frisbee, board games, hiking, touch football,  night tag, water balloon fights and G rated movies rather than sports teams, dancing at the bar or movies with violence and sex-who cares if they are in their 20's! A big night on the town includes taking the siblings to the grocery store, the library or out for miniature golf. They are passionate about the things of God and they do not bend on their convictions, no matter what others may say or do. They don't care that some might see them as "goody-goody" or strange for not dating or for spending so much time with their family-they are proud of it!

You might see them on the road at 6:30am rushing to get to a 7:00am catechism class, even though no one is making him go. You will find them in family worship, singing or playing the piano, teaching God's word to his family or sitting at his fathers feet. They write marvelous heart felt letters of encouragement when needed and yet might not say too much by way of personal stuff to many. They keep confidences. You might easily see him with a crowd of little ones about him as he helps to teach them something or play with them. He will watch an old movie and play cards with his siblings or parents ,even when he would rather be playing "Stronghold Crusader" on his laptop.

He would give up his very life for his savior, his ideals and his family. He makes ice cream floats of all kinds-even strange concoctions- and gives his mom tea in bed. He bakes birthday cakes for his friends with his sister's recipes. He learns follow a recipe and make things in the crock-pot because he wants to be able to at least take care of his wife when the baby comes. You are likely to find him under a car, on top of a roof, mowing a lawn, mending the fence, writing a book, working the night shift to help the family-anywhere that will require hard work, initiative and drive-but not for his own sake.

They are so admired and dearly loved by their families because they are an indispensable source of joy and encouragement, strength of character and servitude. They are never truly independent, because they have come to that wonderful place in the Christian life where they realize, that they must be dependent on God alone in His sovereignty, and the people that He has placed in his life.

Therefore, he is a true man's man. A giant. One to look up to. A hero. A leader among his peers. Strong, steady, dependable and one that you could place your life and the lives of your children into his capable and loving hands-with no regrets or fears."

Kathy Gruben 2006




Phil Johnson's Website
worth the long load time

Phil Johnson's Bookmarks

The Hall of Church History


Fathers, talk to your sons
Don't let their teachers be
peers, lust, women, pornography, or the internet. 

Be their teacher. 
Be their guide. 
Be theirs.
Be there.

Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

1. How many steps does the guard take during his walk across the tomb of the Unknowns and why?
21 steps. It alludes to the twenty-one gun salute, which is the highest honor given any military or foreign dignitary.

2. How long does he hesitate after his about face to begin his return walk and why?
21 seconds for the same reason as answer number 1

3. Why are his gloves wet?
His gloves are moistened to prevent his losing his grip on the rifle.

4. Does he carry his rifle on the same shoulder all the time and if not, why not?

5. How often are the guards changed?
Guards are changed every thirty minutes, twenty-four hours a day, 365 days a year.

For a person to apply for guard duty at the tomb, he must be between 5' 10" and 6' 2" tall and his waist size cannot exceed 30." Other requirements of the Guard: They must commit 2 years of life to guard the tomb, live in a barracks under the tomb, and cannot drink any alcohol or smoke on or off duty for the rest of their lives. They cannot swear in public for the rest of their lives and cannot disgrace the uniform or the tomb in any way. After two years, the guard is given a wreath pin that is worn on their lapel signifying they served as guard of the tomb. There are only 400 presently worn. The guard must obey these rules for the rest of their lives or give up the wreath pin.

The shoes are specially made with very thick soles to keep the heat and cold from their feet. There are metal heel plates that extend to the top of the shoe in order to make the loud click as they come to a halt.  There are no wrinkles, folds or lint on the uniform. Guards dress for duty in front of a full-length mirror.

The first six months of duty a guard cannot talk to anyone, nor watch TV. All off duty time is spent studying the 175 notable people laid to rest in Arlington National Cemetery. A guard must memorize who they are and where they are interred. Among the notables are: President Taft, Joe E. Lewis {the boxer} and Medal of Honor winner Audie Murphy, {the most decorated soldier of WWII} of Hollywood fame. Every guard spends five hours a day getting his uniforms ready for guard duty.

In 2003 as Hurricane Isabelle was approaching Washington, DC, our US Senate/House took 2 days off with anticipation of the storm. On the ABC evening news, it was reported that because of the dangers from the hurricane, the military members assigned the duty of guarding the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier were given permission to suspend the assignment. They respectfully declined the offer, "No way, Sir!" Soaked to the skin, marching in the pelting rain of a tropical storm, they said that guarding the Tomb was not just an assignment, it was the highest honor that can be afforded to a serviceperson. The tomb has been patrolled continuously, 24/7, since 1930.


Thought Provoking Articles

The File Room ---by Joshua Harris  
(this has been credited to another, but J. Harris is the author)
The Stranger --- A story to validate regulating TV viewing in the Home

About Promise Keepers...

Preparing Sons
In the same way that is designed to build up and encourage mothers,  they've recently launched  with a goal to challenge fathers. They have several message boards on the site, if  husbands  have  a few minutes,  they might enjoy checking the site out.


Books for the Christian Husband & Father

Thoughts for Young Men  JC Ryle

Every Man's Battle
Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
for married men; there is also a companion work/study book
Every Young Man's Battle
Stephen Arterburn
A must-read for young men15 years (or so) and older.

Douglas Wilson has written an extremely candid book for men that would be encouraging and challenging for men regarding their thought life, their personal commitment to their  wife, and disciplines of a godly man.  
This is a "must read" for men:   Fidelity ---by Douglas Wilson
Also by the same author Reforming Marriage and  Federal Husband 


Magazines and Publications

Homeschooling Today Magazine
also by James and Stacy McDonald
 Family Reformation  is NOW Let's Learn Theology - it's a great site!

~Credenda Agenda~ This is a  bimonthly periodical exploring all areas of life from a biblical, classical Protestant perspective. It is available free either from their Website:  Or in a mailed hardcopy.  As wide a distribution as possible is encouraged, surviving by means of the contributions of our readers. Credenda Agenda's bimonthly schedule proceeds as funds permit as one of the literature ministries of Christ Church (the other literature ministry is Canon Press).
Begun in 1988, Credenda/Agenda has published over 30 issues -- appearing in its full magazine format for the last seven years. Subscribe to the hard copy version by calling (208) 882-7963, faxing: (208) 882-1568, or by e-mail: P.O. Box 8741, Moscow, Idaho 83843.

Internet p-rn will destroy your family and your life!
It really is sex and it really *IS* sexual sin and you will get caught and there *ARE* consequences.

                         Top 10 Ways to Tell You're a New Dad
10) Getting six hours of sleep is a privilege.
9) The sentence, "Honey, could you take his foot out of my pocket?" sounds normal.
8) You are used to doing everything one-handed.
7) The thought of your mother-in-law coming over for a few hours is a pleasant one.
6) The list of bodily fluids that disgust you has shortened, possibly to zero.
5) Your idea of romance is hand-holding.
4) You answer the question "How are you?" with "We're fine."
3) You decide whether a shirt is wearable not based on sweatiness, but based on how well the spit-up stains
    match the shirt's main colour.
2) You see a slender teenage girl walking down your street, and you only think,
     "Hey, I wonder if I could interest her in... babysitting?"

And the #1 way to tell that you're a new dad:
1) It takes you two months to write and send out a simple top-10-style joke email.


Are things seeming to just not work out for you in business sometimes?  Do the positive mental attitude books and seminars just seem empty or are they just tactical propaganda to you?

You may need a dose of reality.
Despair Inc.
Increasing Success by Lowering Expectations
(men, this is for humor---not intended to offend and not to replace Truth.)   19992012   PO Box 2130 Snohomish, Washington 98291 USA
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