Homemaking In Him
"Grace was in all her steps, Heaven in her eye, In
every gesture dignity and love." John Milton
I have missed writing so much but our home has been
filled with people God sends so often that I must
work hard to keep the family cared for, home in
order, and much more!
I'm still in awe over the women I "meet" online who
are so much more capable than I of keeping it all
together. I'm not there. Truly, I am simply not all
together. I definitely could get a badge for effort
but not success all the way around. The good thing
about this (and yes, there is a good thing somewhere
in a great many things:) is how much it makes me
turn to God.
I'll realize I'm not spending enough time with my
husband but won't know how to make it happen so I'll
pray to God. I'll ask for HIM to make it happen and
to help me figure it out. By and by, He'll show me I
can get up even
earlier and get more ready before my husband rises.
This way, I can have some things done and my Bible
read or at least started when he is up and I can
focus more on talking to him over coffee and
It will dawn on me that my kids are coming and going
with church and school activities and even though
we've been together a lot... I haven't really "been"
there in the moments with them. I'll feel like I
can't change it and
the truth is... I can't. Going to God, I'll pray for
HIM to work it out and show me the way. He'll give
me an idea like making a time each day to really
listen to the kids and "be" there with them ...even
if only 15-30 minutes a
day. With meals and other random sharing... this
makes for a nice bonding time. To top it off, the
Lord guided me to choose one day a month to spend
the whole day with one of my kids. This only takes 3
days a month right now
because our two oldest sons are grown and living on
The word "Mother" conjures up cozy visions of
homespun life: Mother baking cookies,
mother sympathetically listening to your tragedies,
mother as your champion.
You see what I mean? God can help us and will help
with every area of our lives! With me, this
has happened with cooking, planning, and preparing
meals, keeping up with the house, serving in
hospitality, losing weight, reading, writing, and on
and on it goes. God finds a way to fit what is His
There is in every true woman's heart, a spark of
"Homemaking in Him"
Every need we have is met in the Bible. Even so, as
homemakers, many times we will search out books,
magazines, online sites, and more for answers to
help us in managing our families and homes. We will
look up how to clean
this and that, find forms for scheduling, read up on
routines, and study tips for busy moms. The
information is readily available, isn't it? Unlike
less than a decade ago, just about any information
we seek on a subject can be found.
I love this as much as anyone.
I got a gift certificate for Christmas and I
ordered, "Martha Stewart's Homekeeping Handbook" and
love it as I do just about every homemaking
publication I've ever read. This huge volume shares
cleaning schedules, how to's for almost anything you
can think of in housekeeping, room by room care and
much more. I printed out, "SIX THINGS TO DO
EVERYDAY" and "WEEKLY HOMEKEEPING" and plan to print
more as time allows. Following just these so far has
lifted a burden from my tasks because I just do what
I can in a given day, check it off, and feel content
when night falls that I've done what I could. It
keeps me from feeling like I'm running from one
chore, job, and/or mess to another and gets me
through the basics more quickly than before I
There is helpful and worthy information on every
page I've read so far and I have learned more than I
ever thought I would on what I've read from other
writings on the topic. It still doesn't answer
everything. Only the Living Waters from God can wash
away the grime of our lives and show us how and only
the Light of His Son can shine through our questions
and our darkness. In my opinion, it certainly isn't
wrong to improve our homemaking by reading and
studying things on the subject but it is my desire,
dream, and longing to seek Him first and to base all
other actions on what I learn from reading in the
Any verse in the Bible can help in one way or the
other for no Word in it is null and void. I love
finding anywhere from one verse to a book in my
Bible and applying them to my life and even to
running my home:)
One section of Scripture I think offers much
guidance to the Christian homekeeper is Romans
love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is
cleave to that which is good.
Dissimulation basically means faking it. Taking care
of a family, home, and all God sends to us calls for
a lot of love, doesn't it? This verse shows us
clearly the love must not be with any hypocrisy and
it should be genuine. If someone is in our family or
coming to our door and we don't have a real love for
them... we can pray to our Lord for the love we need
and like all of our needs, He shall supply it.
Anything evil... anything at all, should be despised
and hated. When we adhere and attach to, be true and
cling to, and stay devoted to what is good... it
should be easier to flee from evil. Many evils are
in the world around us and we can't be afraid of
them but we must protect our homes from their
darkness. When we close our eyes and hearts to evil
and embrace all that is good (anything the Bible
says is good) ... we can have homes with God's light
and no darkness can come long enough to overshadow
10. Be kindly affectioned one to another with
brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
Oh, that we could learn to be warm hearted to each
one living with us and coming near us! How lovely
will things be when we can put the love for others
above love for ourselves and how much more holy our
homes and lives
11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit;
serving the Lord;
We have a lot of business in our homes, don't we? We
have a lot of duties and we are called upon to rise
to the call of them. We mustn't be inactive,
slothful, or stagnant in the work of our hands. No!
We are instructed to be ardent in spirit! We are led
to being devout, earnest, and passionate in spirit
so it overflows into every crevice of our lives.
We are to serve the LORD! What an opportunity! What
a privilege and a gift beyond what we could dream
of! We are to serve the Lord with gladness in our
12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation;
continuing instant in prayer;
What are some ways we read to serve the Lord?
Starting us out:
* Rejoice in hope. Every day something comes on the
news to chip away at our
hope. Every day something happens to water down the
hope we are to have in
our Lord. We will be blessed if we celebrate in
hope. Hope in Him and His
provision... in Him and His path and way and will
for our lives.
*Patient in tribulation. This is hard, isn't it?
Trials and tribulations
come and patience tries to fly out the nearest
window. Finances plummet to
all time lows and we don't know what we'll eat in
the days ahead or if we
will. Bills become more and more difficult to
organize because the stacks
are growing so large. Problems weigh heavily on us
from family, friends, and
people we don't even know. One problem after another
could be written until
books were made of them but the way we are guided to
handle them is all the
same. Patience. Not of our own hearts... goodness,
no! Our humanity and
flesh is anything but patient! No, it only comes one
way and from one
source... our Lord and Savior.
*continuing instant in prayer; "We should not be
cold in the duty of
prayer, nor soon weary of it."
Matthew Henry CommentaryContinuing in prayer
throughout our days can be as God guides our hearts.
Before meals, driving places, walking, while
cleaning, soaking in the tub, and writing prayers in
journals are tiny piece of the pathways to
opportunities to pray.
13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to
Giving them Jesus. This is the number one reason for
hospitality and the real reason anyone comes through
the doors of our homes. Our offered beverages,
meals, comfortable seats, and attention might allow
some comfort but giving them Jesus heals and helps
like nothing else. How do we give Jesus? We are back
in the Bible. We give Jesus by following His Word in
our actions and these will pour from our hearts. In
other words... the more Word in our hearts... the
more our actions will follow Jesus.
Reading our Bibles each and every day fills our
hearts, minds, and souls and we need His beauty and
fragrance to overflow into every area of our lives.
Our families need our hospitality as much as anyone
else. When the Bible
says to hate sin... I can tell you it is true. A
selfish sin made me not see for years that I was
opening up our home to everyone for miles around and
even people coming from out of state and they got
the best of me. My precious family had what I had to
give but I didn't give them nearly as much as I gave
others and I was so blind I didn't even see it! I
praise God and praise Him endlessly for shining His
light on this darkness and letting me see the error
of my ways.
Please love your families and make sure their needs
are met and lovingly tended to!
14 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse
One definition for "persecute" is: "to annoy or
trouble persistently" ...www.dictionary.com
Goodness! Are there many of us without someone or
more who annoy us? Don't we all know someone or many
who trouble us persistently and with what seems to
be no end? Most of us know one or two, don't we?
Many of us will be called to give to these in
hospitality. Sometimes these are people we live with
in our own homes and on a continual basis. We learn
by verse 14 here to bless them. We are told to bless
and not to curse them and lest I sound as though I'm
telling you to do something I find easy... I have
struggled with this a lot in the span of my life. My
flesh has fought with my spirit and I've had to
learn that it isn't about what it makes me feel. It
isn't about who is wrong. It is about following my
Lord with my life. This means I take what I cannot
do (blessing when I feel like cursing) and I ask God
to bless through me and to give me the power over my
flesh. He will work wonders through us we never,
ever fathom until we see for ourselves!
15 Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with
them that weep.
When our husbands are happy about something... we
are asked by God to celebrate with him! We can be
glad with him and smile and hug and kiss him to join
in his happiness. This is another lesson I took too
many years to learn. I was wretched... truly
wretched: ( If I was in a bad mood (happened a lot)
... and he came in telling me something that sounded
small to my sinful ears... I would just listen to do
it and not really share the moment he brought me. I
didn't see what a gift these times were then. I
cannot bring back the years I lost and the few years
I've changed since
can't retrieve any of those moments but I can seek
your hearts. I can plead with you to not be like me
and have to realize one day that you were not the
woman, wife, mother, homemaker, and so on that you
could have been. Now, you can believe I am eager to
make up for the years satan took!
When our kids are excited about something... how
wonderful we will be if we clap, yell, laugh, and
*rejoice* with them like only we can.
"My mother made a brilliant impression upon my
She shone for me like the evening star --- I loved
If we have friends and/or relatives with something
happening to make them smile... we simply must smile
If we rejoice with those that rejoice... they will
be comforted all the more when we cry with them. If
anyone cries and we know about it... I pray our
hearts can beat with enough heavenly warmth and
tenderness to cry right along with them. I pray we
can grow to care to the point of tears when they are
hurting or sad in anyway.
16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not
but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in
your own conceits.
This is getting long so I'll start sharing slivers
instead of entire blocks:) We aren't better
than anyone else. If we cook, clean, create, play,
build, buy, write or anything else better than this
person or that... we aren't any higher on God's love
chart:) Sometimes we can let a little pride in and
it can become this thing that paints us out to
ourselves as more grand than someone else. It isn't
so... we just start seeing ourselves that way. We
are all beautiful to God and there is nothing we
*do* to change that.
17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide
things honest in the sight of all men.
No paybacks. The Christian homemaker of any kind and
sort doesn't pay back one evil for another. . . we
realize that all evil is bad regardless of who
performs it. We are admonished to rise to a place in
our walk where we are honest in all areas and in the
sight of all.
18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live
peaceably with all men.
We cannot control what another person feels, thinks,
or does. We cannot control if someone is angry with
us or how they handle a relationship. What we can do
is to be at peace with that person or people as much
as it is possible. We can pray for them, show them
kindness, and depend on God to take care of it.
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather
give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance
is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he
thirst, give him drink:
for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with
When someone in our family ... husband, teenager,
screaming toddler, or others living with us ...
breaks our hearts or our peace, we will do well to
feed them good meals and serve things to quench
their thirst. If someone away from our homes is
doing something to make them feel an enemy ...
we have the power (and it takes power from the
Lord!) to pray for them and do good against their
Instead of rubbing our hands together excitedly for
the vengeance of the Lord to come down upon them or
to envision heaping coals on their heads... we can
pray for mercy. Knowing what the wrong behavior is
capable of doing in those lives can make us merciful
if we let it.
Dear Ones, our responsibilities are great and varied
and even difficult sometimes but what a gifted
pathway we are placed on! We follow the trails for
saints before us, make new roads ourselves, and have
many to follow the
steps we make now. May we hold our heads high on our
biblical mission to walk as women of a mighty God...
The one Master of all. For those of us married...
may we march ahead hand in hand and heart to heart
with our husbands smiling all the way. May the not
married shine like stars in the heavens for His
glory. It is my prayer that in our motherhood, as
blessed homemakers, and every other role we pour out
that our Lord shines through us and marks us as
godly ones. I pray we read our Bibles and pray
without ceasing and open wide our lives for HIM to
Love to all!
Beautiful as seemed mamma's face, it became
incomparably more lovely
when she smiled, and seemed to enliven everything
Sandy Willoughby, ©2007