Sandy's Sunroom
A Gracious Home
Life
"She will set a garland of
grace on your head and present you with a crown of splendor." Proverbs 4:9
Grace defined - favor or kindness shown without regard to the
worth or merit of the one who receives it and in spite of what that person deserves. To
have a gracious home we surely will have to come to a greater understanding of grace
itself:) so may we focus on some key areas to concern ourselves with.
These are what this dictionary writer says "grace is almost
always associated with"... mercy, love, compassion, and patience.
We all have dreams of how we'd like our home life to be
and our prayers are usually even grander than our dreams - as it should be. Most of us
could write down long lists of everything we'd love our homes and families to be but it
seems to be hard when crossing the bridge between fields of hope and streams of "how
to"!
We must make sure that our thoughts of ideal homes line up with
God's plan for them first. To do this... let us go to His Word. This Word is so precious
and so alive that every desire and dream in our hearts will only flourish to the extent of
what we take in from the truths provided there.
I want to touch up on some areas we need to cultivate and grow
in our homes according to our Lord's superior standards... excellent and admirable are His
standards.
Since grace is "almost always associated" with mercy,
love, compassion, and patience let us explore the Bible on the truths
MERCY oh, isnt this something we beg our Father
for? We dont have to be Him for He is a God of truest and most noble mercy. He has
proven this since the beginning of time. Mercy
what does it mean? Nelsons
Illustrated Bible Dictionary describes it this way: "the aspect of Gods love
that causes Him to help the miserable, just as grace is the aspect of His love that moves
Him to forgive the guilty."
"But God, Who is rich in mercy, because of His great love
with which He loved us," Ephesians 2:4
God is rich in mercy because of HIS great love
the great
love He loves us with.
This would mean, then, that we are rich in mercy out of great
love. Mercy comes because of love.
We must have mercy in our homes. We must be merciful women
showing mercy out of our love to our husbands, our children, to our guests and even to
ourselves.
"Blessed are the merciful, For they shall obtain
mercy." Matthew 5:7
We dont have hearts full of mercy out of our own
"goodness". We cannot display mercy to those around us unless it is deep inside
of who we are. How does this happen? Do we will it so? No, we couldnt however hard
we might try. This is how it happens
we pray for it!
"Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that
we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:16 Notice
again here, how mercy and grace go together!
Read some of these verses dealing on the "richness" of
mercy: Matthew 9:27, 15:22, 17:15, 18:33, 20:30; Romans 9:15, 16, 18; 11:32. Phil. 2:27,
Jude 22, 23. I Corinthians 7:25; II Corinthians 4:1.
"Grace is what God gives us when we dont deserve and
mercy is when God doesnt give us what we do deserve." Author Unknown
LOVE How many volumes have been written about this
one word? How exhaustive of a study could we do on this one 4-letter topic? Lifetimes and
more lifetimes couldnt get us half way there. This doesnt mean we should dip
into the well brimming full with such beauty from God!
We shouldnt stop at "dipping into" this
well
we would do well to dive in and swim in it!
Just defining love in all its splendor could and would take
books from here to heaven. Because of this and for the sake of simplicity I will take the
"key thought" from the condensed and concentrated definition of the word
The "key thought" is that love has many types. We will
just use two main forms of love; one being "agape" and the other being
"phileo". To keep this as easy as possible for now
it is safe to say that
"agape" love is a love of choice. It is choosing to love someone.
"Phileo" is a love of affection and feeling. It is an impulsive love where
"agape" is a more deliberate love.
In the Bible dictionaries AND the online dictionaries I have
browsed through on this
one story in the Bible is said to be an example of these two
loves. It is the exchange between Jesus and Peter in John 21:15-18. The first two verses
are expressing "agape love" and Peters answers along with the Lords
3rd question are expressions of "phileo" love. I encourage you, sweet
sister/reader
to draw from the rich example in this Biblical dialogue between Jesus
and Peter.
The bottom line of love is that love IS God. GOD IS LOVE. We
have no knowledge or chance at love without HIM
for He is love and love is Him.
"And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be
burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing." I Corinthians 13:3 "Love
never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues,
they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away." I Cor. 13:8 Only
love never fails.
We are to love like this! We make the choice to love or to not
love every single day. Love is not some fluttery emotion that keeps us happy and flying in
the skies all day long and lifts us up to dance on the starts all night. It might feel
like this sometimes
but real love is a chosen love. It is a love that keeps on
loving when loving is the hardest thing to do. It loves through bad moods, hurtful and
trying times, pain and suffering and everything else that can go on in our lives.
"Phileo" love is sometimes like a reward for living
out the "agape" love. In other words
it is often after making the CHOICE
to truly love someone that the feelings of that love come into play. The deep feelings and
affections come as a result of choosing to love through the times when you feel NO sweet
or tender feelings towards someone.
This real love
it is choosing to love and care for the one
who isnt being nice to you. It is making breakfast with a cheerful spirit even
though a husband didnt take out the trash
saying the words "I love
you" to a teenager who hates you for apparently no reason
holding up to
discipline a younger child when it is harder on you than it is on them and doing so for
their own good and not for releasing your own anger. It is hold up --- enduring it all
with a smile, or a tear, or whatever it takes. It is loving when loving is the hardest
thing youve ever done
and it is remembering that your Lord has done and does
the same for you.
COMPASSION "To suffer with another"
"to show kindness". To suffer with another person with the desire to do
something about it. Doesnt this word go hand in hand with mercy?
"But You, O Lord, are a God full of compassion, and
gracious, Longsuffering and abundant in mercy and truth." Psalm 86:15
Does this one verse not say it all? Does it not wrap and blend
together everything written above? Praise the Mighty Hand of God
the Heart of
God
Gods beautiful Spirit over, in, through, and of our lives!
May we have compassion in our homes! Abundant, overflowing, ever
going compassion! May we think of this dear word, compassion, when our husbands
arent everything they should be or when they are fighting to survive this world so
hard that they arent "who we married" at times in our marriage! Dear God,
give us this compassion when our children dont do as they should, when their studies
are beneath their capabilities, when their actions arent in line with their
characters! May we call out for COMPASSION when those around us are falling, faltering,
failing in this thing we call life!
PATIENCE "Long Suffering." See how all of the
words keep coming together? How one can join in fellowship with another until an entire
array of words all show us similar things?
"Forbearance under suffering and endurance in the face of
hardship." Isnt this a call to us all? Each woman of God is called to walk in
patience. We are to be patient in affliction, patient when insulted, patient when we walk,
when we talk, when we listen, when we lie down. A Christian is called to patience because
Jesus was patient and still is.
"But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be
perfect and complete, lacking nothing." James 1:4
Father, help us
provide us with patience. I know you
always hear to never pray for patience because of the road it takes to get there. We
dont have to fear that road, though! God gives us what we need for all good works!
Remember not your patience --- your patience doesnt exist.
We arent patient by nature! GOD is He Who is patient and HE is where our patience
will come from.
We must show patience when things dont go our way, when
people dont love back, when we do all we can without it ever seeming to be enough,
when those around us arent being patient with our faults! We must see that patience
doesnt pour from our inner selves
it isnt something we control. Patience
pours from the Father and through us
never any other way. The only control we can
claim is the control to open our souls and look to the heavens, proclaiming,
"Its OPEN, LORD! Im not patient but I am willing to let YOUR PATIENCE run
through me like a mighty river!" Patience will come to those who ask
our Bible
tells us that wisdom comes this way and I choose to believe that the same can be true for
patience!
"Grace is what God gives us when we dont deserve and
mercy is when God doesnt give us what we do deserve." Author Unknown
"Your worst days are never so bad that you are beyond
the reach of Gods grace. And your best days are never so good that you are beyond
the need of Gods grace." Jerry Bridges
May our Father in heaven bless every endeavor you undertake in
effort to let Him live through you in everything you do or ever will do.
Love, Sandy
[All verses are shared from the NKJV Bible and all definitions
given are from Nelsons Illustrated Bible Dictionary, & Vines Expository
Bible Dictionary]