A Letter To Sufferers Of Chronic Pain

Dear Fellow Sufferers, do you feel sometimes less worthy as a woman, wife, mother and homemaker because of your illness? At times like these, fibromyalgia/CFS, lupus and other diseases that cause chronic pain, can become very lonely diseases. And self-fulfilling ones.

It does seem unfair that not only do we have this accursed disease but that we feel obliged to defend ourselves constantly! Sometimes even to doctors! Families can often be the worst with their taunts about being a hypochondriac and demanding we get a job! Why don’t they realize just breathing is a job some days??

Because I walk in your shoes, may I offer you some advice and comfort? Come and let me offer comfort with these words- thoughts that come from bearing one of the heaviest loads imaginable: chronic pain and illness whilst trying to be a good wife, mother and homemaker.

My friend, are we not the best of loving wives and mothers, homemakers, servants of our family and the LORD? We don’t throw in the towel and give up because we can’t- we have our families and home to look after- but we draw on all our innermost reserves to give to our families what is needed when we just want to crawl back into bed and vegetate. Do we? Not as much as we want!

We show great devotion, endurance, and self-sacrifice with our limited energy and draw closer to God than perhaps most healthy women would do. Why? Because it is harder for us! Isn't it more valuable in spiritual terms to deny oneself the rest and ease we would love to indulge in, than to achieve the "honor" of having the most spotless of homes etc with relatively little cost as regards personal denial and physical pain? Kind of like Jesus's parable of the widow's mite- she gave all she had and the others gave of their abundance! Do you not see the correlation? We give our all, not just a little of the abundance of our strength. Surely then for us, are we not more worthy of honor and appreciation? I would say so!

And so I would encourage you to realize that you do not have to take the taunts and demands to heart, nor let it settle in your spirit. You do not have to defend yourself incessantly to anyone, because you are doing far more already than most people of lesser fortitude would do. Furthermore, God hears our sighs and pleas, He knows we are but dust and knows our frame- He most of all identifies with our weaknesses! Will He not say "Well done Thou good and faithful servant" to us who struggle to serve others every day when our flesh cries out for compassion and being served ourselves?

In moments like these, I cling close to Christ and let His compassion
and grace wash over me afresh- for without His closeness I would never get up some mornings!
 With the Psalmist, let us dwell on God for our strength as we cry, "I love you LORD my strength!" Psalm 18:1

Glenys Robyn Hicks 2005

For more support with chronic illness and pain please visit this site  http://www.restministries.org and read through my thoughts and verses. I travel the long road of fibromyalgia/CFS and (?) lupus. There is victory for us: through Christ we can do all things- just a little slower!  Blessings, my friends.  ---Glenys

Thank you Ritva! 


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